Relationships nowadays - what should we do?
Lately I have participated in some retreat at my school and I consider important reading the Bible again (very often I don’t feel like prepared for this – my head is full of issues.)
I want to
talk about changing relationships.
Time
changes, people as well. As we can see, right now people aren’t like those from XX century because
they tend to focus on possessions. They like numbers and they want to compete
with each other , at the same time this generation has problem with having a
simple conversation, it is difficult to learn how to treat each other. They
think only about themselves, they’re selfish. For example, nowadays, people don’t know what
marriage is (this union looses its value) and how to live with other person. However,
we can read what the Bible says about it.
“[Live together] with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Eph. 4:2-3)
We can
analyze this verse a little bit and see little instruction how to live with our
significant other.
1. “with all humility…” What destroys our relationships is pride. We feel more
entitled and we’re more demanding than giving and serving. We want to control
everything, even that person. We want to be always right. Pride is an
anti-relational way of having a relationship, but humility is the godly way.
2. “and gentleness…” When we treat our significant other with gentleness, it
makes them want to move near us. Responding with gentleness shows them that
they’re safe in our care. This is the essential relational bond.
3. “with patience…” It’s not a healthy relationship when we don’t want to wait or
we don’t know how to wait. When we want to have everything in our time, in our
way, we’re busy loving ourselves and we don’t have time to love the other
person.
4. “bearing with one another in love…” We need to be conscious that in love we
suffer and we need to be ready for it (I’m not talking about physical and
mental abuse). We’re not perfect and there’s always something in other people
that makes us suffer. We fail really often.
5. “eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit…” Love is something deeper than
what we want, having our way or being right. God’s Spirit gives us an amazing
platform for unity.
6. “in the bond of peace” Love means willingness to make peace and not war.
There are
people that still want to have everything in their way. What about you?
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